It’s ok if she is earning more than you
The modernized society with changing mind sets of people have made it easier for women to step out from their homes and earn for themselves and for their family as well. Gone were the days when the men were only the breadwinner of the family, now women are also sharing the responsibilities equally. Undoubtedly, women are managing both the duties very well and are earning handsome amount sometimes even much more than their husbands. But there are still many people who believe that it’s shameful for a man whose wife is earning more than him and this scenario might be perceived in different ways by different people.
In-laws are more uncomfortable with it
In many of the cases, it is found that it is not the husband who is uncomfortable with the fact that his wife is earning more than him, in fact the it’s the parents of the husband who are criticising their son for not earning equally work similar to what her wife earns. And in most of the cases, the in-laws don’t feel pride with the career growth of their daughter in-laws and believe that a man is not man enough if his wife is earning more than him.
Think before you speak
Also in many cases, wives who are earning more than their husbands find it difficult to talk anything related to money and expenditure as their husband’s might assume that they are showing off their power and will take it on their ego which results in ego-clashes between the couple. Sometimes, wives who got hikes in their salary and the husband barely got any increment at his workplace, also faces a negative time period into their relation. They also face criticises from their husbands on earning well them him with a sense of insecurity in talks.
Sometimes you are the breadwinner
In some cases, it’s not the husbands who are breadwinner of the family but their wives. Couples who share good understanding does not fight in these situations and it really don’t matter to them who is earning more and who is bearing all the household expenses. Who work as a team have a sense of safety and security among them and never felt awkward in such types of situations.
See your partner as a teammate rather than a competitor
Rather than developing a competitive spirit with your wives, treat her as your team mate otherwise the unresolved gender feelings will increase the gap between you and your wife. It’s important to see your partner as a teammate and not as a competitor.”
With the gap between men and women’s earnings narrowing down, husband’s need to understand that their wife is equally efficient and qualified as he is and has every right to earn for herself and for the family as well even if the package is higher than his package. Enjoy double income in a more welcoming way and use it to give best comfort to your family rather than turning things more awkward especially when as a husband you are earning lesser than your wife. There is nothing shame full in it and rather feels more proud that your wife is doing well in her professional career.