It’s good to let Kids Fail to succeed in Life
The term Snowplow parents or lawnmower parents might sound new to everyone since we have not heard much about it previously. Actually Snowplow parents are people who constantly remove obstacles out of their kids’ paths without giving them chance to handle the situation on their own. Surely they love their children but it also comes from selfishness and status obsession as well that is forcing them to remove all kind of obstacles coming in the way of their kids which actually can have devastating effects on the kids later on.
The harsh reality about these hyper intensive parents is that their behaviour is stopping kids to get an understanding of the competitive world. They keep a close activity of every kid’s activity and monitor their every move as they are more anxious about the big, wide world but such kind of favours are actually harmful which slowly and gradually become harmful. In fact you should give your kids an opportunity to become themselves and find a solution to the problem, if arises. This way you can help them in becoming independent and matured adults and not the ones who constantly wants someone support to climb the ladder of success.
If you are also a Snowplow parent who is doing everything to ensure that your kids don’t experience failures than you need to stop this behaviour of yours and need to raise a self-sufficient child who can face the real world challenges in a more optimistic way.
Give advice rather than taking the decision
When your child is facing a problem, being a parent it is your responsibility to give your advice to handle the situation but don’t pressurize them to follow your instructions the way you want. Instead respect your child’s feelings and let the ball fall in their court only, they will feel more confident this way. Eventually when your child grows up, he/she will have to face the situations on their own and have to take a stand and decide for themselves, so let’s cultivate this habit from childhood only.
Ask for their opinion
Their opinion matters a lot and asks them how do they want to handle a particular situation? And in exchange them to come out with multiple strategies and outcomes for a problem which will build their confidence as well. And if on their opinions, we react with a combination of empathy and encouragement as well, they will learn to digest appreciation and rejections as well.
Don’t help always
If in case your child is constantly seeking your help, ask yourself a question that whether your child is capable to figure out the solution on their own or not and will your support hamper his/her learning and growth? If all the answers are not in favour, then let your kids lead the race and try to be more transparent by telling them the reasons of not helping them. Don’t always come in between your child and their problems and let them realise that asking for help when required is an act of self-respect and always you can’t depend on someone for help.
So these are some of the ways which can help you in not following in the category of Snowplow parents and rather worrying so much about setting your children to succeed, let them understand rejections and failures as well which will give them a reason to stand up again on their own. Try to protect your kids from any harm but don’t become the ones who are harming their kids the most.